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16 November, 2012

Trust

I have written many posts about "Love". Today, it is something even higher and better than love and that is- Trust.

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.
-       George MacDonald.


"I TRUST YOU" is a better compliment than "I LOVE YOU" because you may NOT always trust the person who loves you, but you will always love the person who trusts you.
For a woman the feeling that her man has manifested full and complete trust, faith, confidence in her is more orgasmic than knowing that he loves her. 

If someone says to you that he/she can trust you, then that person is admitting to something even greater than love. Trust involves all his thoughts and emotions to be given to someone so they can have love. Trusting someone is to know that you can be hurt so bad that no one can even know. This is why trust is a word of great power. It takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it. 
 Every friendship, every relationship, is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself. Secrets do destroy a relationship. 
 When you start trusting someone, "unflinchingly", that person does not have the courage to fail you. But mind you, the emphasis is on the word- unflinchingly. Manifest your trust unshaken and steadfast with not a remotest hint of doubt-Unwavering trust. When a woman gets to know that her man does not trust her, she is so hurt, so upset and falls apart. That is the time she cheats on him. What came before- egg or hen? Who will decide? So is, in this case- when woman cheats on her man (and cheating does not necessarily mean having another relationship. It implies hiding things, keeping secrets of any kind), her reason is always that her man did not trust her in the first place. While a man would choose to say that he already knew that something was amiss. He already had suspicion. He did not trust her. So what came first? Her cheating or his non-trusting attitude? More than loving a woman blindly, madly, to death, trust her madly, trust her blindly, trust her to death. Woman is a creator, not a destroyer. She will not fail your trust. In dance, we have something called, "leap of faith". It is a perfect trust and faith building activity.
When a woman opens up to you, she trusts you. Do not be the reason for her to put her guard back up. 


There are 2 kinds of households-
1. A man trusts his woman completely. He makes her a part of his every decision making process- finances, business, work, and his relationship with his side of family, his friends, his worries, his joys and accomplishments. She gives him her full love, care, attention, respect and also trust that he deserves. She dotes over him.
2. Man alienates the woman. He hides everything or something/censors the information. She knows nothing or little about him. In this situation she detaches herself and moves on. Result- two separate lives, two co existing individuals. She might try to win his trust for some time, make changes and amends in herself and her personality to please him, be pained with his aloof behavior, get hurt, but sooner or later becomes immune, moves on and has the attitude- to hell with you. No trust. No love. 
What kind of household do you want? You have both the choices and options. The result has been told to you. To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Advice for men: More than love, invest trust in a relationship, in your woman. She will never ever betray you.

I will finish this with a story

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand." 
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father. 
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. 
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let go off your hand. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go." 
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. 

"Trust enables you to put your deepest feelings and fears in the palm of your partner's hand, knowing they will be handled with care."
- Carl S.